Here we are in the 21st Century. Technology is moving faster than we can keep up with, opening whole new arenas to us. The options of what we watch, listen to, read and connect with are so much more expansive than at any other part of our lives, informing us of any little thing we could hope to know.
Archive for October, 2010
These comments from J. Wight, and others from the http://www.jonathanturley.org blog were well articulated and we feel it has merit to be shared here on our blog:
1, October 18, 2010 at 4:40 am
I’m a mainstream Mormon and have alway been taught to shun even the appearance of condoning the polygamous lifestyle at all costs. I grew up in Oregon but now I live in the same Utah valley as the participants in this show. I’m an involuntarily-divorced father and over the past years I have come to reconsider the notion of polygamy, though I would never leave my church and will never do anything other than sympathize with many polygamous families. I now know polygamous families personally that are decent, down-to-earth, and loving families. The astounding fact everyone seems to miss is the caring, nurturing, and loving parenting that takes place with the children. This lifestyle is probably not for everyone, but if you think that this lifestyle is somehow deficient for the children involved, compared with neighbors and most families,who put their children in daycare for 10 hours a day, then you are simply deluded. No sober or sane perspective of these people, witnessing it first-hand, can come to this conclusion. The caveat here, of course, is that I’m talking about the non-criminal and/or non-abusive polygamous lifestyle. Everyone knows about the crazy and abusive polygamists, who operate and socio-pathologically thrive on the margins of a disenfranchised or outlawed culture–like so many other sociopaths who operate on so many different fringes of the marginalized populations of our societies. Because they can get away with so much on the un-monitored margins, sociopathic personalities will always be associated with such subcultures. However, you must look beyond the headlines and surface portrayals to understand a cultural choice such as this, just as you would for any alternative lifestyle.
The following article from http://www.cavalierdaily.com written by Claire Shotwell captures some of our thoughts and talking points regarding the change of attitude we wish to see of Americans concerning our right to practice adult consensual polygamy; and it illustrates that many who aren’t in polygamous societies realize that this is a civil right that shouldn’t be criminalized by a society that is continually becoming more accepting of homosexuals:
The first time I watched “Sister Wives” on TLC, I thought to myself, “How can people that seem so normal be so weird?” For those of you who have not seen the show or its promotional advertisements, it follows a modern, polygamist family — the Browns — who live in Utah. They wear jeans and T-shirts, curse and even encourage their daughters to finish college before they marry. How exceedingly … normal. I have since realized that the Brown family confronts the negative stereotypes and stigmas associated with plural marriages and also present the positive side to a debate that society has long ignored. State governments, in examining the equality and justness of marriage, should not only debate same-sex marriage, but plural marriage as well.
Each of us born to this earth has the right to grasp an opportunity and make for ourselves the life we would hope to have. For some it is to remain single, for others it is to connect in a commitment, be it same sex or single partner, with marriage vows or without; and for a number of us, it is to choose to live with others in a commitment containing more than one spouse.
As most of the nation has been finding out, life has had to get quite a bit simpler with economic times being a tough as they are. And they are tough, rawhide tough. But I won’t belabor my little moan right now. With downsizing our wants and thinning out our needs (my dreams of an art degree along with it) I’ve actually been able to catch a breath of fresh air and slow down just a bit.
The following is a true story. I am sharing it to show the color and joy of living in a large plural family, to which I can attest, having been born the 9th child of my mother into the loving arms of a 63 year old father. This note, written by a 17 year old fine young man, was attached to the laundry room door of a large “plural” family (names have been changed for privacy reasons):
My Dear Household Companions,
One fateful day last week I attempted to do my laundry. I did this in complete ignorance-not knowing the horrific events that were about to unfold. It was about 3 P.M, just another afternoon doing my chores. I was sorting laundry- lights, darks, delicates, etc. It being my common practice to do the deli’s last, I placed them in MY laundry basket, and continued to wash the other batches of clothing. I left for a short period of time… little did I know this was the last time I would ever see my 2 shirts again.
The Safety Net mission statement states:
The Safety Net Committee brings together government agencies, nonprofit organizations and interested individuals who are working to open up communication, break down barriers and coordinate efforts to give people associated with the practice of polygamy equal access to justice, safety and services.
We (Centennial Park Action Committee) have taken Safety Net at its word, and our intentions being here are to assist to this end. But the events of this last week have left us with some concerns as well as the need to clarify some things.