“It’s Time the West Emerge from the Closet and Legalize Polygamy” is an article published on the SomaliUK.com website whose opening paragraphs describe fairly well the way I feel about the way people view polygamy. It seems like most of the time as long as a married man is engaging in a relationship with another woman who is not his wife (a.k.a. his mistress) people turn a blind eye, or think he is a real man’s man for being able to have more than one woman. On the other hand however, if a man wants to truly love, respect, take care of, and raise the children of more than one woman he is reviled and hated. This is something I have never been able to understand.
Adultery is O.K. but plural marriage is not. How does that makes sense?
You may want to read the article. It is talking about Muslim vs The West and it is very interesting.
It is similiar to the attitudes towards so-called “alternative lifestylers” aka “swingers” who openly swap sexual partners. When a man has a mistress or a woman a “sancho”, the fact they are hiding it at least gives the impression that they know what they are doing is wrong. This of course, reflects the general attitude that having multiple partners is wrong or “evil” by definition. A polygamist or alt. lifestyler is throwing all pretense out the window and by doing so, are making a statement that multiple partners are ok and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. “Moral” folk can’t handle this “in your face” message they are sending and react to it the only way they know how, by revulsion, condemnation, and even violence as we have seen by the FLDS pogrom and police raids of swinger’s clubs, notably in Montreal and Miami, where the participants were eventually vindicated after going through legal “hell”.
I think that most people would not have a problem with polygamy if the children were left alone! If this lifestyle is so wonderful and harmonious, why not wait until the girls are old enough to decide that this is what they want? Why do they have to get married at 14 or 16 or even 18? Give them some time and outside life experience! And then, if they choose this life and years later, want to get away from it, why does it seem that the children born of these unions are used to hold the mothers hostage? Where is a young mother, with sometimes 10 or more children going to go with her babies with little or no education or money? They are forced to remain in a sometimes terrible situation!
Well, anyone interested in the “wholesome” jessop family really should read the latest posts on texasflds.wordpress.com
http://texasflds.wordpress.com/2009/04/29/inside-the-merril-jessop-household/
Seems bab’s and merril’s son is a real pervert! Likes really little girls, probably can’t get any women to even look at him so he has to expose himself to 3, 4, 5 year olds. And poor little MJ already being sexually molested by her big brother at such a young age, no wonder she didn’t think anything of being married at 12.
It’s all about CONTROL. It is also about the static frictions associated with our society.
As long as the nay-sayers have things the same and there is no change, they are happy. Now, this kind of thinking would have seen Russians on the moon first. With no change, the nay-sayers FEEL control. Of course this ‘control’ is in THEIR MINDS and NOT REALITY.
We have become, more and more over time, a BACKWARDS COUNTRY…where others have left us in their DUST.
It is up to all of us to change and improve our nation. Marriage is a convenant. Adultery is not. Marriage is responsibility, adultery is not. Plural marriage is family building but adultery is family destroying. Now folks, how much more simple can it be? Even the backwards nay-sayers should get it…well, maybe some of them.
One of the articles mentioned “missionaries”. I was un-aware that fundemental mormons sent missionaries. Is this true? Or did I mis-understand the reference?
Thanks for your web-site by the way. Very enjoyable.
Regards, Ryan.
I can’t speak for other groups, but our missionaries are not sent out to preach but rather they engage in projects in and around the community.
I agree with this. And besides, we already have laws against child abuse, under age marriage and spouse abuse. In this day and age it makes little sense to criminalize Polygamy. Especially when you have consenting adults in love seeking marriage.
This is a problem that needs to be maturely addressed.